Preschoolers are learning how to make friends—and sometimes, that means big feelings, shy moments or even a few tears. Making friends is an important part of growing up, and with your help, your child can build the social skills they need to connect with others.

Why Friendships Matter

Friendships help preschoolers learn to share, take turns and work through emotions. Having friends builds confidence and helps your child feel like they belong. These early relationships are more than play—they help shape how your child will relate to others for years to come.

Support Your Child’s Social Skills

You don’t need a fancy plan—just a little guidance and lots of encouragement. Here are some ways to help your preschooler start making friends:

• Set up short playdates. Keep it simple and low-pressure with one or two kids at a time.
• Model kind behavior. Say “hi” to neighbors or thank the grocery clerk. Your child learns a lot by watching you.
• Talk about feelings. During story time, ask, “How do you think they feel?” This builds empathy and understanding.
• Praise friendly behavior. When your child shares or includes someone, celebrate it! That helps them see the value in kindness.

For more tips, check out Harvard’s guide on helping children make friends.

If Making Friends is Hard

Not every child warms up quickly—and that’s okay. If your little one struggles, here’s how to help:

• If your child is shy: Give them time and start with smaller groups or familiar settings.
• If conflicts happen: Step in with calm words like, “Let’s try taking turns” or “Let’s find something else to do.”
• If your child feels left out: Tell them that it’s okay to feel upset, and help them practice what they can say or do next time.

Fun Ways to Build Friendships

Kids learn through play—so build social skills while having fun!

• Play group games. Try “Simon Says,” “Red Light, Green Light,” or “Follow the Leader.”
• Work on a project together. Stacking blocks, painting or building with cardboard encourages teamwork.
• Explore nature. Go on a nature walk and look for bugs or rocks—shared discoveries can spark a connection.
• Visit local play spaces. Your nearby Family Resource Center or library is a great way to meet other families.

Pro tip: PBS Kids offers a variety of games and videos that focus on making friends and handling emotions.